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Thought Exchange

Sunday, May 18th, 2014

DavidFriedmanToday I was a participant in a workshop put on by renowned composer and author, David Friedman. Taken from information in his groundbreaking book, The Thought Exchange, David outlined how our minds are conditioned to think the same thoughts over and over. Thoughts we have sometimes believed as truth since childhood.

Yet as adults, we are frustrated when our lives do not improve no matter how hard we work to produce new results. The disconnect occurs because we are using the same old thoughts about what is possible in our lives.

In order to change our results, we must start with changing, or more precisely “exchanging” our thoughts. We are conditioned to believe what we think about something is the only thought possible for us. It is our belief, our truth. In reality there are unlimited numbers of thoughts that are possible.

Do you think you are incapable of doubling your income?

Do you think you will never find your soul mate?

Do you think opportunities have passed you by?

Imagine you can take that long held thought you have back to the store and exchange that thought for a new one.

What? How is that possible? I know, that thought of yours may not look so good, but it is comfortable and has served you well. It has kept you safely where you are, if not happy.

Just like trying on a new pair of shoes, selecting a new thought about what is possible for you will create some physical sensations. There’s a rub on the heel, it pushes on your little toe. It feels uncomfortable.

If you exchange your old thought of “I can’t” to a new thought of “I can,” you will feel uncomfortable. A knot in your stomach. Your heart may race. You may feel nauseous. You will want to revert back to those comfortable old shoes.

Hold the new thought. Stay with the sensations. Allowing yourself to feel the uncomfortable sensations is the key to taking on a new thought about yourself. Positive thinking feels good in the moment, but a lasting change of thought requires acknowledging those uncomfortable sensations and proceeding anyway.

Whatever you see in your world is a reflection of the thoughts you have about yourself. When you look in a mirror, if you do not like the color shirt you see, do not expect the mirror to change it. Only you have the power to exchange your thoughts to reflect a new belief about yourself.

“When we were able to be with our sensations, infinite possibilities opened up.” David Friedman



You Are the Absence of Darkness

Tuesday, December 25th, 2012

Burning Candles


Sharing with you this thought of the season to carry with you all year.


"Candle Dipping"

by Clara Bell Thurston


"A candle's but a simple thing;

It starts with just a bit of string.

Yet dipped and dipped with patient hand,

It gathers wax upon the strand.

Until, complete and snowy white,

It gives at last a lovely light.


Life seems so like that bit of string;

Each deed we do a simple thing;

Yet day by day if in life's strand

We work with patient heart and hand,

It gathers joy, makes dark days bright,

And gives at last a lovely light."


May your light be steady. Where you share yourself with the world, no darkness remains.

Merry Christmas!

Is Space the Final Frontier?

Monday, October 29th, 2012

You may recognize the phrase "space, the final frontier" from old television episodes of Star Trek. Reaching Mars has re-energized the interest in space travel, yet there is a mostly undiscovered galaxy much closer than Mars and the moon.

The galaxy of the mind. As we looked at different aspects of our mind over the last few days, have you realized you still have much to learn about the vastness of that space between your ears?

The intellectual faculties describe your mind's powers that go beyond the six senses provided to you by your body. As humans, our mind is specially equipped to notice and process information, sometimes consciously and many times, subconsciously.

Maybe where you are today, the skies are gray and you are experiencing the effects of that mammoth storm.Your subconscious mind sets up the scenario before your conscious mind knows what’s happening.

You get out of bed a little more slowly.

Your eyes are drooping.

You reach into your closet and put on a blue shirt.

There’s no conscious reason for your gray mood, is there? It’s just how your subconscious mind is advising you to feel.

Your morning commute is filled with erratic drivers that cut you off and get in your way.

You struggle to find a parking place.

You drop your brief case in a puddle as you juggle your keys and coffee cup.

What a day you’re having!

At lunchtime, you leave the dreariness of your office, the ringing telephones and your irritating co-workers. Without much conscious thought, you walk down the block and into Jose’s, a local restaurant. A subconscious salsa craving must have drawn you there!

Inside, the walls are painted golden yellow with accents of bright terracotta red. Your mood suddenly improves. It was a color craving that guided you there!

You are surrounded by color that, somewhere in your subconscious mind, holds a pleasant memory. Warmth, vacation, delicious food. Whatever the color cues, your subconscious mind again takes control of your attitude. You no longer see a gray day.

Terry Trucco explains the power of our sub-conscious to create the environment we need. “The colors we crave are often a direct reaction against those that surrounded us most recently.” Positive color feelings have transformed your attitude and your experience of the day.

Attitude is always the composite of your thoughts, your feelings and your actions. This trio is responsible for producing your results. Let’s look at how closely the three are linked.

Your sense of sight notified your conscious mind the morning sky was grey. The subconscious mind, the seat of the feelings, is most alert upon awakening. It associated the grey sky with a feeling of being down. Perhaps as a child you heard “grey days are depressing” and out of habit you react this way. The conscious mind, the thinking mind, went along with the feeling, as it usually does, and produced thoughts to create the down feeling.

Thoughts – feelings – actions – results.

You say to yourself (thought), “I’m so tired”.

You are less energetic (feeling).

You move more slowly (action).

You’re running late for work (result).

Similar thoughts soon follow.

“I don’t want to be noticed today.”

You feel insignificant. You pick the blue shirt. You don’t plan on accomplishing much today.

“These drivers are out to get me.”

You feel aggressive and weave and cut through traffic, narrowly escaping being the cause of an accident.

“There’s never enough parking.” 

You feel out of control and find no place to park in the closest parking lot. Now you’re very late for work.

“I really need to clean out this briefcase.”

You feel disorganized. Kerplunk! You drop it into a puddle. You’ll have to redo the report inside.

“I work with a bunch of incompetents.”

You feel trapped by your job and scowl as you answer the phone. A good customer comments to your boss about your poor attitude.

“I need a change of scenery.”

You feel the need to escape and leave for lunch earlier than normal. You breathe a sigh of relief as you are drawn to a positive dose of color that improves your outlook.

Each thought you created in your conscious mind, reinforced the first feeling by the subconscious mind that morning. Your thoughts determined the actions you took, and those actions manifested as the results you experienced.

A good day, or a bad day, is entirely up to you.

Let’s take another look at the cloudy grey morning and how to get different results through the use of your intellectual faculties.

The perception of your mood is your cue to think about where the feeling is coming from. If it's just an irrelevant, habitual thought, you choose to not think it. Be good to yourself today.

There is no logical reason not to feel great today. It’s only the weather condition, not yours.

Access your memory for something that makes your feel good. Positive memories far outnumber the negative ones. Remember jumping in the puddles as a child?

You are able to imagine the sky brilliant blue. Just above the clouds, it still is. Start imagining where your next flight will take you.

Intuition tells you by wearing a bright color today, your mood will improve. And by driving to the second parking lot, there will always be a place to park.

Use your will to focus on what you will accomplish today.

Before you leave home, you get your day back on the right track. The inconveniences and irritations that you habitually experienced with your old way of thinking, won’t be a part of today.

Awareness is the first step in creating new thoughts, positive feelings, and more productive actions that lead to the results you want.

Only you can allow a thought into that final frontier of space, your glorious mind.


"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom."

Viktor E. Frankl

I’m Gonna Live till I Die

Monday, August 13th, 2012

Any animal lover who has ever taken a furry critter into their home takes the chance of one day having to say good bye. This past week my sister bid adieu to her companion of fourteen years, a blue eyed, white cat called Frankie.

Named after “old blue eyes,” Frank Sinatra, this cat never even heard a tune as he shared an abnormality of many white cats, deafness. Not a handicap for him, he seemed to read minds or at least read lips. He answered her calls as if by thought energy.

You can't replace the devotion of an animal friend. Loss is emotionally painful, yet isn't life all about finding connections with other people? And that, of course, includes furry people. 

Sharing yourself with others creates value in their life that comes back to you in untold ways. Be open to opportunities to be a friend to God's two or four legged creatures.

As Frankie's long and contented life drew to a close, it was obvious that only my sister's love was keeping him alive. And only because of her long time love for him, was she able to let him go.


"A flower cannot blossom without sunshine, and man cannot live without love."  

Max Muller

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