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You Have the Habit of Health

Thursday, January 2nd, 2014

BeautifulBlueDay two of this new year. What positive habit have you incorporated into your daily routine? In my last post, I said the most effective way to add a new positive habit is to link it to a habit you already have, like reading a few lines of a book while you brush your teeth.

Today I’ll tell you about a habit that may be new for you, but it’s one that we all can benefit by implementing. A few years ago, I was having some health challenges that included severe migraine headaches. I went to see my doctor and she immediately observed I was dehydrated. It showed in my blood work and also on my skin that looked dry with deep lines appearing on my face.

Oh course she recommended drinking more water. I visualized a row of eight 8 oz. glasses of water on the countertop that I would never drink in a day. But I really wanted to relieve those headaches and not look so drawn out.

Dehydration is a condition that affects almost everyone. Our bodies are up to 65% water, so when we do not replenish the fluid that we loose naturally through perspiration and urination, a large part of us literally “goes away,” and our body suffers. If you neglected to put oil in your car, think about those grinding gears as the engine tries to function.

Now I rarely have a headache and when I do, I know the reason why. What’s the easy solution that keeps me running smoothly?

Link the habit of drinking water to a habit I already have. Every morning as I pour my cup of coffee, I pour a large glass of water and drink that down before indulging myself with coffee. After six or eight hours of not drinking while you sleep, you are especially dehydrated in the morning.

One glass down, seven to go. Whenever you use the bathroom, you are in the habit of washing your hands. Link to that habit, drinking a glass of water. Whatever goes out, must be replenished. That will add another four of five glasses per day. If you’re not releasing liquid that often, that means you’re not drinking enough.

Another way to ensure hydration is to always ask for a glass of water when you eat out and don’t leave the restaurant until you drink it all. This also works with your meals at home. Have a glass of water along with your usual beverage, especially when drinking alcohol which tends to be dehydrating.

That’s seven glasses. How can you possibly down another? As you go to bed at night, link to your evening ritual pouring a glass of water to set on your nightstand. Take a sip before closing your eyes and any time you wake up in the night. You will wake up refreshed and less dehydrated.

There, you did it!

Your choices become your habits of health.


“All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire.” Aristotle

What Are You Creating?

Tuesday, October 2nd, 2012

Ask most people, "Are you creative?" and you'll probably get a puzzled look and a shrug. Artists are creative, and writers, and inventors. If you're not painting a picture, or writing a sonnet, or devising a mode of intergalactic travel, how creative are you?

Maybe it's the word, creative, that seems so intimidating. The idea of making something out of nothing, reminds us of the biblical connotation. Who are we to compete with a production like that?

But even artists, writers and inventors start with something. They begin with paint or clay, with words and their meanings, and with an infinite supply of what already is to create a new and different version.

Some of the most creative people I know do not wield paint brushes or pens. They are the problem solvers in the world. The tools they use are past experience and a way of seeing that is not obvious to most of us.

After spending most of the morning tinkering with the stereo amplifier that stopped working, my husband pronounced it "done." Not fixed, but its usable life was over. "That was a waste of time," he declared.

Not so. You learn something with everything you do, whether you classify it a success or not. He is a great problem solver because he's spent a lifetime experiencing what will and what won't work. His creativity lies in finding a solution or determining it's time to move on.

That's a skill everyone can master. As Einstein reminds us "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it." The first step in fostering your creative mind is to step back and see the situation with different eyes.

Take a literal step away and do something totally unrelated. Take a walk, read a book, call a friend. You will come back with different eyes that may see something you missed before. Distance creates a new perspective.

If that doesn't work for you, question the assumptions you are making by being too close to the problem. Pretend you've just met someone and they are telling you about this same problem they are having. From the outside, looking in, what helpful suggestions would you offer to them?

Most of us can eagerly offer advice to other people because we are detached from the problem. Write down your ideas for them and then see how those suggestions would help you too.

Creativity thrives when the mind is free to wander. The subconscious mind, where all knowledge and our every experience is stored, has all the answers.

You are a creative being. What are you creating? A solution or a bigger problem?


"The human body has two ends on it: one to create with and one to sit on. Sometimes people get their ends reversed. When this happens they need a kick in the seat of the pants. "
Theodore Roosevelt

What a Waste of Time

Wednesday, September 19th, 2012

We are blessed with the freedom to make decisions every day that affect the outcome of our lives. But do you ever get tired of making so many decisions in a day?

What are you having for lunch?

What movie do you want to see?

What color car to buy?

What color shirt to wear?

Trivial decisions. You wonder if it matters. Toss a coin to make it easy.

You could leave many choices to the luck of the toss, or you could have a fool proof system in place. Decide once and you simplify your life forever. It's an easy solution to the time wasting problem of making decisions.

The following is excerpted from a Vanity Fair article titled "Obama's Way." The President describes the reasoning behind his wardrobe choices.

“You need to remove from your life the day-to-day problems that absorb most people for meaningful parts of their day. “You’ll see I wear only gray or blue suits,” he said. “I’m trying to pare down decisions. I don’t want to make decisions about what I’m eating or wearing. Because I have too many other decisions to make.”

He mentioned research that shows the simple act of making decisions degrades one’s ability to make further decisions. It’s why shopping is so exhausting. “You need to focus your decision-making energy. You need to routinize yourself. You can’t be going through the day distracted by trivia.”


"Great, a system," you think, "but how do I know which colors to pick the first time? What if I make the wrong decision?"

Finding your best colors is all about recognizing your best self when you see it. You probably have a favorite dress or a lucky jacket. You get compliments when you wear it. Your self esteem soars. You feel invincible.

You're on to something- a color that looks good on you and makes you feel great. Make the decision to wear more of that color. Create your signature color that makes you memorable. 

Know what you like, wear what looks good on you. Never be indecisive again.

Even if you're not the President, why waste your time deciding day after day what colors to buy, what colors you should wear? Learn what works for you, follow your system, and have time to focus on being Commander-in-Chief of your world.

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"I think that when you get dressed in the morning, sometimes you're really making a decision about your behavior for the day. Like if you put on flipflops, you're saying: 'Hope I don't get chased today.' 'Be nice to people in sneakers.' "
Demetri Martin

How Is Your Immunity?

Friday, August 10th, 2012

Have you ever asked someone, “How are you today?” and they actually told you? If that's the case, it probably wasn't a positive response.

I once knew a woman who was always eager to share her pain. Most of the time, I listened and nodded with an empathetic look on my face. After our conversation I would feel emotionally drained and feeling down myself.

Eventually, I learned to no longer ask that leading question and began the conversation by complimenting her on how well she looked.

That simple shift of perspective would often lead to a more positive interaction. She felt better about herself and I felt relieved by not being part of her negative focus. If our conversation eventually returned to irresolvable health matters, I excused myself until our next meeting.

There is a fine line between feeling empathy for others and protecting your own well being. Contagious negative energy spreads faster than the common cold.

Of course you cannot live in a social bubble, especially in this age of immediate communication and interactions with a global community. Purveyors of doom and gloom are no longer limited to face to face conversations. 

When you are exposed to the viruses of pessimism, disdain, and intolerance, your resistance is weakened.

So how do you build up your immunity from the disease of negativity?

  •    Realize everyone creates their own reality. Do not adopt someone else's reality.
  •    Offer a proactive solution to the problem. Be prepared to be ignored.
  •    Smile and say a prayer for them.
  •    Walk away (or Unfriend).

Any interactions affecting your well being, be your own best friend and protect your positive attitude.

You deserve to feel great!

How Do You Deal With Disappointment?

Tuesday, July 31st, 2012

We all face disappointments. Not making the sale you've worked on all month. Missing out on the last almond croissant at the bakery. Not the desired outcome, but not the end all.

You shrug it off. Try harder next time.

What if you have been working toward a goal your entire life? Dedicated hours every day. Visualized your success. And in the end- you came up short.

Disappointment is a mild description for the heartbreaking reaction of Olympic gymnast, Jordyn Wieber, when she missed out on her lifelong dream of representing the U.S. in the all-around competition.

Most of us will never know the feelings she experienced. We have never wanted something so badly or worked for anything so intensely.

Tears fell, yet years of discipline was evident as she reined in her emotions and returned to perform another day. One commentator described her as "driven by the agony of loosing."

Her solution to recover from disappointment?

  • Smile
  • Focus
  • Be stronger and stronger
  • Replace bad memories with good memories

An example of a true champion we can all follow to temper our disappointments and ramp up our own level of desire.

And perform another day.

Thank you, Jordyn.

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