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Thought Exchange

Sunday, May 18th, 2014

DavidFriedmanToday I was a participant in a workshop put on by renowned composer and author, David Friedman. Taken from information in his groundbreaking book, The Thought Exchange, David outlined how our minds are conditioned to think the same thoughts over and over. Thoughts we have sometimes believed as truth since childhood.

Yet as adults, we are frustrated when our lives do not improve no matter how hard we work to produce new results. The disconnect occurs because we are using the same old thoughts about what is possible in our lives.

In order to change our results, we must start with changing, or more precisely “exchanging” our thoughts. We are conditioned to believe what we think about something is the only thought possible for us. It is our belief, our truth. In reality there are unlimited numbers of thoughts that are possible.

Do you think you are incapable of doubling your income?

Do you think you will never find your soul mate?

Do you think opportunities have passed you by?

Imagine you can take that long held thought you have back to the store and exchange that thought for a new one.

What? How is that possible? I know, that thought of yours may not look so good, but it is comfortable and has served you well. It has kept you safely where you are, if not happy.

Just like trying on a new pair of shoes, selecting a new thought about what is possible for you will create some physical sensations. There’s a rub on the heel, it pushes on your little toe. It feels uncomfortable.

If you exchange your old thought of “I can’t” to a new thought of “I can,” you will feel uncomfortable. A knot in your stomach. Your heart may race. You may feel nauseous. You will want to revert back to those comfortable old shoes.

Hold the new thought. Stay with the sensations. Allowing yourself to feel the uncomfortable sensations is the key to taking on a new thought about yourself. Positive thinking feels good in the moment, but a lasting change of thought requires acknowledging those uncomfortable sensations and proceeding anyway.

Whatever you see in your world is a reflection of the thoughts you have about yourself. When you look in a mirror, if you do not like the color shirt you see, do not expect the mirror to change it. Only you have the power to exchange your thoughts to reflect a new belief about yourself.

“When we were able to be with our sensations, infinite possibilities opened up.” David Friedman



Dramatic Results

Thursday, October 4th, 2012

There’s something about the natural drama of the late fall. Storm clouded skies are streaked with variations of gray, from charcoal to dove. Yet in the opposite direction, the sun breaks through to cast a golden glow on the remaining yellow leaves and bare branches silhouetted against the autumn sky. What a magnificent sight!

You too can create dramatic color results by using one of Mother Nature’s same devises, contrast. The deep gray of the sky and the brilliant gold leaves creates a contrast that certainly is attention getting. We tend to pick neutral colors as a base for our wardrobe and our home décor, so everything “goes together.”

Yes, that’s fine- it all matches, but where is the drama?

A color client, Betsy, confided in me that she had just bought several new pieces for her wardrobe, all in the same color, black. “I never have to think about what goes with what.”

“How does your new wardrobe make you feel?” I inquired.

“Drab.” was her reply.

Betsy needed some contrast to make her new basic wardrobe come alive. Looking at her dark hair and eyes, I suggested she try on a cobalt blue jacket over her black top and pants.

An amazing pop of color!

Next, she tried on a red and black leopard print jacket over her black basics.

“Ooh, I love red!” was her reaction.

Finally, Betsy modeled a silky knit, cardigan sweater with a medallion pattern of black and rich magenta.

“This is my new favorite sweater.” Betsy nodded.

All three simple additions to Betsy’s basic black wardrobe foundation created just what she needed, a contrast.

And, most importantly, the colors drew attention back up to her face.

If you’re starting with black, dark blue or charcoal gray, add a bright color for contrast.

Or, if your beginning palette is pale, beige or off-white, contrast with a deeper accent color.


Create your own drama this season!


"Drama is very important in life: You have to come on with a bang. You never want to go out with a whimper. Everything can have drama if it's done right. Even a pancake. "
Julia Child

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