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What New for You?

Thursday, January 1st, 2015

ballAre you overwhelmed with all the advice to make your New Year resolutions today? To set your big goals for 2015? It happens every year- as predictable as the dropping of the Waterford crystal ball in Times Square.

And every year, it sounds like such great idea, doesn’t it? Begin the New Year in a new way. Replace those bad habits and failures of last year with a renewed zeal to move forward. Climb that mountain, loose that weight, quit that dead end job.

How many years have you thought of those great ideas?

Ideas, resolutions, goals.
On January 1, they are all the same; they represent an aspiration to be the best you can be.
But by January 31, or the 10th or even the 2nd, we realize the difference.

Ideas without action are daydreams.

How do you take that great idea beyond the daydream state?
Ask yourself if it’s what you really want in your life.

Can you see yourself doing, being or having the life experience you imagine?
Wouldn’t it be nice to see the view from the mountaintop?
Wouldn’t it feel wonderful to wear your skinny jeans?
Wouldn’t it be glorious to have your own business?

Sure, but can you see yourself taking the journey to get there?
What one action can you take today to begin that journey?
More importantly, what single action will you take every day going forward?

Make it doable, make it fun.
Buy the hiking shoes. Skip the cola today. Look into getting a business license.

Life is more enjoyable when you’re moving forward.

The turning point of an idea is committed action.
Before you know it, it’s a resolution.
You could even call it a goal.

It’s a New Year.
There’s no better time than today to live your new life.

Are You Living a Blue Monday?

Monday, January 13th, 2014

How’s this for a Monday morning pick-me-up? I just read that the third Monday of January is the most depressing day of the year. It’s called Blue Monday. And it has nothing to do with the phases of the moon or the weather.

blue mondayBy the third Monday, over two weeks of the New Year have passed and you have already lost track of the resolutions you made. Remember those promises to yourself- exercise, read more, spend more time with family, etc., etc. Another new start and you’ve veered off the path to a successful new year. Humph!

Stop putting yourself down.

Besides, today is only the second Monday of the month.

The perfect day to assess if that resolution was right for you.

If you’re finding it difficult to maintain a new behavior, it’s because your reason for staying the same as you are is too strong. Ask yourself what you get from not exercising, from watching TV instead of reading, from working or being with friends instead of being with your family. Whatever behavior you resolved to change is too important to your current sense of identity to easily alter it.

In order to bring on lasting change, you must first see yourself as the person you want to become. Imagine every detail of what your life would be like as the person who has made this change. Each time you’re tempted to not do what you say you want to do, ask yourself what would your better self do. Bring a clear picture of that you into your mind. You don’t have to be accountable to anyone else. “To thine own self be true.”

You have the next seven days to practice being that new you.

On Blue Monday you can smile with satisfaction. No reason for you to be depressed.

You are living the dream!

“There is no blue without yellow and without orange.” Vincent VanGogh

No Resolutions this New Year

Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

You’re off the hook. No New Years resolutions are required this year. Resolutions, no matter how well your intention, don’t work. They’re too big, don’t feel natural and sometimes daunting. There is a much more effective way to begin your new year, one that guarantees success.

surprised babyIt’s called a Habit. Now before you run through a litany of excuses, think of all the bad habits developed over your life time that have been impossible to kick.

Biting your nails.

Being late.

Embellishing the truth.

That just shows you that habits, once adopted do not just go away.

What about the good habits? At some point in your life a parent drilled into you the habit of brushing your teeth every day. Now you naturally perform that habit without thinking.

After being embarrassed by a college roommate when I hadn’t shaved my legs in a week, I decided to make shaving my legs every day a habit. That simple action became and still is part of my daily grooming ritual. It makes me feel better about myself.

So back to this New Year. There may be something in your mind. You know, if you did it every day, your life would improve. But how, in your busy day, do you fit in one more thing?

The secret to creating a new, positive habit is to assign it a time slot.

The easiest way to find time is to link the action to a habit you already have.

Say you want to read an inspirational or self help book this year. No time as you rush through your morning- or is there? Prop a book up in your bathroom and read a few lines as you brush your teeth. Totally painless because you’re standing there, thinking about something anyway. Your day will undoubtedly be more pleasant.

You may have thought of resolving this year to be a better conversationalist, or to meet new people. No time to join a club or church. Instead make a habit of speaking to everyone you see, in the elevator or passing on the street. Just a hello or small talk is enough to stretch your social boundaries. It will also make the recipient of your gesture feel better about themselves. No telling where this could lead.

What else would you like to do in the New Year? Be more grateful? Add that to your nighttime ritual, just before you turn out the lights. Jot down a note to someone you appreciate- just a line or two will do. That simple habit will release endorphin into your system and you will sleep peacefully. And imagine the smile on their face when they open the mail box.

Our habits create our life.  Only you create your habits.


“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then is not an act, but a habit.”  Aristotle

Bleeding Hearts and Others

Sunday, February 3rd, 2013

bleeding hearts Look closely at this marvel of botanical nature. A favorite of my Grandmother's, this delicate flower held a place of prominence on her front porch. Surrounded by greenery and blossoms of every description, nothing could compare to the Bleeding Heart.

A confusing name to me as a small child. I watched it closely for red droplets like those I saw when I scuffed my knee. The tiny, heart shaped blooms hung precariously from the stem, but did not bleed.

As we enter the second month of this year, we leave the pale pink of the new year, that top edge of the rainbow. Like the edge of the Bleeding Heart transitions to deeper hues at its center, January's newness leads us in to the red month of February.

How appropriate this month our thoughts turn to hearts of another sort, Valentine hearts of the reddest hue. There are roses and heart shaped boxes of chocolates to look forward to this month. Are they going to be pink or red? Red is a deeper commitment than pink.

Pink is puppy love.

Red is passionate love.

Pink looks cheerful.

Red is powerful.

You started this year with thoughts or even resolutions about how you want your life to be. They were delicate pink in the beginning. Now, it's February. Have your intentions deepened? Are they fully formed and powered by the red of your passion?

I've noticed some of mine have drifted like pink feathers in the wind. Those I categorize as "wouldn't it be nice" intentions. Pretty to look at, yet weightless.

But February has a way or sorting priorities. What you are still doing by February to advance toward your dream, now that is where your heart lies. Your Bleeding Heart holds firmly to your core values.

Count your delight in shades of red.


"The moment you have in your heart this extraordinary thing called love and feel the depth, the delight, the ecstasy of it, you will discover that for you the world is transformed."
Jiddu Krishnamurti

Up In Flames

Sunday, January 6th, 2013

A New Year tradition at the Unity Spiritual Center is a ceremony called "Burning Bowls." In this early part of the year, as we tend to look at our life with the intention of improving, our self inspection also calls attention to frailties of character and bad habits that have impeded our progress. New Year's resolutions, after all, are all about making changes.

abstract fire on blackThe only way to improve is to change.

The best way to change is to release the things in our life that do not serve us.

The tradition of the Burning Bowls is a three step process. First, write down on paper those thoughts and feelings that have gotten in your way the past year. What, if no longer in your life, would free you to be the person you want to be?

Some examples may be-

Self doubt



A sense of lack

Make your list truthfully. It's for your eyes only.

Next, light a flame in a fireproof container, a burning bowl, a fireplace or chiminea. Consciously and with intention release the paper into the fire.

As your words are consumed by the cleansing flames, feel the lightness in your body. Those troubling thoughts and feelings have been released. You now have the space in your heart and in your conscious mind to replace what held you back with what you intend to create this new year.

Write a list of the things you will accomplish. With nothing to inhibit your progress, what unlimited goals can you create? Include the attributes that you now claim as your own to help you on your way.





This list describes the new you, free from whatever used to hold you back. A new You for the New Year.

The final step is to write a note of gratitude to yourself and to a higher power for the accomplishment of all you intend to be and to do. Write the note with the feelings and enthusiasm you would have in reaching your goals.

Seal this note in an envelope to be opened at the end of this year. Tuck it away with your holiday decorations, or give it to a friend who will return it to you eleven months from now.

Why? To experience the sense of amazement and gratitude when you read your note. The person you aspire to be is the person who will be reading your thank you note.

A few weeks ago, I opened and read the note I wrote to myself in January of last year. There are no coincidences. What I sought and was grateful for receiving at that time, is now in my life.

What you imagine, what you intend, you create.

Release what does not serve you and create the life you choose. Let the power of the flame obliterate the obstacles.

Your own power to create is limitless.


"Sometimes you get the best light from a burning bridge."
Don Henley

A Day Past Newness

Wednesday, January 2nd, 2013

The second day is not like the first. Do you remember your second kiss? The second time you tried a new dish? Of course not, because the second time, it was no longer a new experience. So on the second day of 2013, your heart did not flutter with new possibilities. On the second day, possibilities either made themselves clear, or they got lost. A lot like those resolutions.

Dawn Other than trying to remember to write the correct date, did today pretty much resemble last year? Nothing really different? But yesterday we had such grand plans for this New Year. I'll remind you of my resolution that I shared with you.

Let's have a fun and fulfilling life.

Feel free to adopt it as your own. No need to give up on those aspirations. It's still January and the pale dawn of the year continues to tint the clouds. You're riding on that top edge of the rainbow. Get comfortable, you have many things to learn from this very young year.

On this second day of the year, it's time to define for yourself, what is fun and fulfilling for you?

To get you started, here's how I describe those resolute feelings for myself.

Fun does not feel like work; fun feels like play.

Fulfilling is not doing what is important to someone else; fulfilling makes me feel more like myself.

A fun and fulfilling life for me is taking time to playfully discover who I am and what makes me come alive. What you are reading today is evidence of my resolution lived. Writing feels like play to me and as I reveal myself to you through words, I am discovering more about myself as well.

Let's have a fun and fulfilling life this new year!

Tell me what pictures that brings to mind for you?

"A business has to be involving, it has to be fun, and it has to exercise your creative instincts."
Richard Branson

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