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Create the Best Memorial

Monday, May 26th, 2014

Remember Today

A memorial is defined as “something designed to preserve the memory of a person, event, etc., as a monument or a holiday.” The word is on everyone’s lips today. This day is set aside for the very purpose of remembering.

As if any human mind needs to be reminded of the past.

Our lives are a compilation of past events and remembrances. We use those memories constantly to justify our beliefs and to dictate our actions. Some of us choose to live in those “good old days” and discount the importance of the Now, of the moment we are in.

The events of our past are effective as tools for learning. What did we do in the past that brought us closer to our goals? Remembering that action will help us continue to succeed.

What misstep in our past produced an unfortunate result? The lesson we learned is always good to remember. Staying mired in the bad feelings, thoughts of inadequacy, of hopelessness, do not serve our highest good.

Allowing ourselves to live fearfully because of a past event will color our present choices with a veil of negativity. Keep the wheat; let go of the chaff.

As noted by Edmund Burke, “Those who don’t know history are destined to repeat it.”
Remember and honor those today who made the ultimate sacrifice for our freedoms. Celebrate all who continue to represent your interests.

Use the Now of this day to put those valuable lessons to use and move forward to create your life as a testament to the good that has been accomplished by those who have gone before you.

Your life, well lived is the finest Memorial.

Do You Know Your Impact?

Monday, July 30th, 2012

This past weekend my husband and I attended a memorial service for a woman who was our next door neighbor for twenty two years. She had endured many health challenges, yet her passing last fall was quick and unexpected.

We met as interior designers working for a local design firm in the mid eighty's. Our common interest made us fast friends though she was several years my senior. Visiting the lake front home she shared with her husband, we loved the location and we told them we hoped to live on a lake one day.

Her husband contacted the owners of the house next door and asked if they were interested in selling. Coincidentally, they had been considering letting go of their summer residence. We instantly became not just friends, but close neighbors.

Throughout the years we enjoyed her gourmet dinners, picnics on their pontoon, and hours of chatting with a glass of wine or Irish coffee. 

As they aged (we did too), we helped with more of their lawn work, home maintenance and various errands. After her husband passed away, she felt secure living alone in her home with her friends, her St. Bernard's as she called us, living next door.

Two years ago, we moved away. Phone calls, cards and emails kept us in touch. Her sons, living in other states, visited her when they could. They encouraged her to move to an apartment that would require less care. She was determined to stay at the lake, stay in her home.

The memorial, held at her lake front home, was bittersweet. It was like coming home again with a couple exceptions. We do not live in the house next door anymore. And she is gone.

Her sons welcomed us as family and insisted we be part of the ceremony to celebrate and remember her life.

"You were her best friends." 

I hadn't stopped to realize what each year we shared, each phone call and every card we sent meant to her. I only remembered what she had meant to me.

Do you know the impact you have on others?

Realize it now.

Celebrate now.


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Mary Ellen Lapp reveals how the colors we wear, and the colors that surround us, even the color of the car we drive, impact out self image and affects how we are seen by the people around us.

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