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Thought Exchange

Sunday, May 18th, 2014

DavidFriedmanToday I was a participant in a workshop put on by renowned composer and author, David Friedman. Taken from information in his groundbreaking book, The Thought Exchange, David outlined how our minds are conditioned to think the same thoughts over and over. Thoughts we have sometimes believed as truth since childhood.

Yet as adults, we are frustrated when our lives do not improve no matter how hard we work to produce new results. The disconnect occurs because we are using the same old thoughts about what is possible in our lives.

In order to change our results, we must start with changing, or more precisely “exchanging” our thoughts. We are conditioned to believe what we think about something is the only thought possible for us. It is our belief, our truth. In reality there are unlimited numbers of thoughts that are possible.

Do you think you are incapable of doubling your income?

Do you think you will never find your soul mate?

Do you think opportunities have passed you by?

Imagine you can take that long held thought you have back to the store and exchange that thought for a new one.

What? How is that possible? I know, that thought of yours may not look so good, but it is comfortable and has served you well. It has kept you safely where you are, if not happy.

Just like trying on a new pair of shoes, selecting a new thought about what is possible for you will create some physical sensations. There’s a rub on the heel, it pushes on your little toe. It feels uncomfortable.

If you exchange your old thought of “I can’t” to a new thought of “I can,” you will feel uncomfortable. A knot in your stomach. Your heart may race. You may feel nauseous. You will want to revert back to those comfortable old shoes.

Hold the new thought. Stay with the sensations. Allowing yourself to feel the uncomfortable sensations is the key to taking on a new thought about yourself. Positive thinking feels good in the moment, but a lasting change of thought requires acknowledging those uncomfortable sensations and proceeding anyway.

Whatever you see in your world is a reflection of the thoughts you have about yourself. When you look in a mirror, if you do not like the color shirt you see, do not expect the mirror to change it. Only you have the power to exchange your thoughts to reflect a new belief about yourself.

“When we were able to be with our sensations, infinite possibilities opened up.” David Friedman



A Year of Color, Month Three

Sunday, March 3rd, 2013

Just as with anything new, the year began with the delicate hue on the very top edge of the rainbow. A wisp of color, pale pink to introduce new possibilities and our color journey this year.

Next, the intensity of commitment described by February's radiant red, the color of love. There is no turning back, this year is vibrant like the most dominant color on the crest of the rainbow.

Close-up of a gerbera What now, with March? The longer days, the warmer sunshine, the grip of winter subsiding, we are encouraged by the next phase of color, brilliant orange. How appropriate for March, as orange is joyful and happy. Think of your own appreciation of this month's activities.

Spring break.

Flowers peaking through the cold ground.

Colorful clothing emerging from your closet.

Orange is the color of hospitality. This month create a warm and hospitable place in your life to celebrate how far you've come so far this year.

We've many more colors to experience, yet savor this month of new growth and bask in the orange glow of your accomplishments.


"When you squeeze an orange, orange juice comes out- because that's what's inside. When you get squeezed, what comes out is what's inside."
Wayne Dyer

Thank You for Your Service

Sunday, November 11th, 2012

A holiday for remembrance, Veteran's Day is one of only a few yearly occasions on the calendar that is not marked by celebration. Seems each month there is a day to display colorful decorations, send a "happy" this or that card, prepare a special meal or give us reason to go out to celebrate.

The commemoration on this day involved a parade, a solemn tribute and show of pride for a group of people who ask for nothing in return, after giving everything on behalf of the rest of us, so we can all enjoy our daily freedoms.

Don't let this day go unnoticed, or pretend it's just another Monday holiday without mail delivery. If leprechauns and bunnies deserve a celebration, why not celebrate today by taking a veteran to lunch? Wear the solitary red poppy to proudly decorate your lapel and honor those who left us too soon.

And remember to say "Thank You for Your Service."


"I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was a joy."
Rabindranath Tagore

Clearly the Better Choice

Wednesday, August 29th, 2012

Imagine two glasses, one holding clear water, the other coffee. Think of the glass of clear liquid as your mind.

            You are relaxed and happy.

            The sun is shining.

            You are surrounded by positive, uplifting people and circumstances.

            Nothing clouds your clear, positive outlook.

This is also you, the dark coffee, on another day. You wake up, turn on the television, and watch the daily news. The airways are full of disasters, tragedies dramatically related by the news commentators. You can’t take your eyes away. Your mood darkens.

On the car radio you are reminded again of everything that went wrong in the world, and in your local community. Even the weather forecast is foreboding. Chance of showers, partly cloudy. A furrow appears in your brow.

Later in the day, the newspaper arrives complete with photos of the events you’ve heard about on TV and the radio, and a downward sloping graph of the daily stock report.

The people around you complain of their aches & pains, their marital problems and computer viruses.  Ugh! The cloud hanging over your head gets darker & darker.

Noticing your mood, a friend offers a positive compliment about how you look today. That felt good, but no visible change in you mood.

You notice an act of kindness, someone helping an old lady across the street. You manage a positive smile. Did that change your outlook?

Your phone rings. It’s an old friend you haven’t heard from in years. Your conversation is filled with the fun of the good old days. Little by little, you see some improvement.

Before falling off to sleep, you read a chapter from an uplifting book. A sigh of gratitude leaves your lips as you fall asleep.

The positive influences are making a noticeable difference.

I’m reminded of a Bible story, I’m sure you’ve all heard, on the subject of sowing & reaping. When I first heard it as a child, I thought, what’s this got to do with my life?

I’m no farmer.

When I heard it later, as an adult, I heard it another way. Or maybe I was ready to hear it another way.

The freshly tilled, fertile soil, when planted with corn, will grow corn. If wheat is planted, the soil produces more wheat. If nettles are planted, that’s what will grow.

The farmer expects to get out of the soil what he puts into it- that’s the law of nature. The soil does not care what the farmer plants. Its job is to make it grow, to produce more of what is put into it.

This fertile soil is akin to our fertile minds. Whatever we plant in our minds, our minds set out to make it grow- to produce more of what is put into it. Maybe I am a framer after all. You are too.

If we put into our fertile minds the “nettles” of negativity, the photos, the words, the TV images, the gossip and negative comments, how can we expect to feel good? Planting nettles will not harvest a bumper crop of sunflowers.

How can a positive result be produced by ingesting negativity?

It never will.

Even by adding positive events, it takes many more positives to counteract a negative attitude. It takes much more positive energy to overcome feeling of anger and sadness.

Remember your crystal clear, positive mind? It takes only a little dark negativity, like a tiny bit of poison, to start to darken your positive mood.

Don’t plant nettles is you don’t want the prickly result.

Take yourself away from the negatives influences in your life.

The difference will be clear.


"Clear thinking requires courage rather than intelligence.
Thomas Szasz

The Waterfall Doesn’t

Monday, August 6th, 2012

After visiting my hometown a few weeks ago, this week it was my husband's turn to look for the remnants of his childhood home. A theme revisited, looking for what was.

What made this visit so special? Keith's oldest daughter came along to enjoy his tour of Indian Falls.

"Is there really a waterfall?" was her first question.

"Of course."

We parked near a ravine obscured by the overgrowth of trees and bushes. A rail fence rimmed the overlook. Pushing aside the greenery, we strained to look below to view the falls.

"There, over there," he pointed.

An outcropping of jagged stone stood tall above the floor of the ravine. At the bottom, a narrow stream of water flowed over the smooth, flat rocks. A young boy waded in a calm pool of water.

"But where are the falls?" We peered again and listened for the sound of falling water.

Where are the falls? Where indeed.

The once formidable rushing fall of water had, over the years, become a subtle stream.  An unseasonably warm and dry summer in Western New York had obliterated the Indian Falls. 

The waterfall doesn't – yet the memories of happy times climbing on the rocks and splashing below the falls were as vivid as yesterday. Father and daughter enjoyed the retelling of his boyhood adventures.

She followed the steep path down to the waters edge to be in that place that meant so much to her dad. 

What a marvelous gift the memory can be when it brings a smile to the face and a sharing across generations. Falls or not, you can't take those away.

Day Twenty One of the 30 Day Gratitude Challenge

Monday, July 2nd, 2012

 If you've ever had entrepreneurial aspirations, you may also live in the illusion that you can do everything yourself. Day Twenty One of the 30 Day Gratitude Challenge, I appreciate someone who finally convinced me it's O.K. to ask for help.

Sure I can do it all myself – illusions die hard. The lesson in reality I slowly learned is -someone else may do a better, faster or more creative job. When I stopped to consider, what is the best use of my time, and I let go of the need to control everything, my world worked much better.

What are you hanging on to doing yourself that's really not your strength? Look around you. There are people who are competent, willing and happy to help. Just ask. 

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