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What New for You?

Thursday, January 1st, 2015

ballAre you overwhelmed with all the advice to make your New Year resolutions today? To set your big goals for 2015? It happens every year- as predictable as the dropping of the Waterford crystal ball in Times Square.

And every year, it sounds like such great idea, doesn’t it? Begin the New Year in a new way. Replace those bad habits and failures of last year with a renewed zeal to move forward. Climb that mountain, loose that weight, quit that dead end job.

How many years have you thought of those great ideas?

Ideas, resolutions, goals.
On January 1, they are all the same; they represent an aspiration to be the best you can be.
But by January 31, or the 10th or even the 2nd, we realize the difference.

Ideas without action are daydreams.

How do you take that great idea beyond the daydream state?
Ask yourself if it’s what you really want in your life.

Can you see yourself doing, being or having the life experience you imagine?
Wouldn’t it be nice to see the view from the mountaintop?
Wouldn’t it feel wonderful to wear your skinny jeans?
Wouldn’t it be glorious to have your own business?

Sure, but can you see yourself taking the journey to get there?
What one action can you take today to begin that journey?
More importantly, what single action will you take every day going forward?

Make it doable, make it fun.
Buy the hiking shoes. Skip the cola today. Look into getting a business license.

Life is more enjoyable when you’re moving forward.

The turning point of an idea is committed action.
Before you know it, it’s a resolution.
You could even call it a goal.

It’s a New Year.
There’s no better time than today to live your new life.

Move Along- the Best Option

Monday, February 3rd, 2014

city scene“Move along, you don’t fit in.” If you heard this when you were eight years old, you would be crushed. They don’t want you in their game or to be part of their club. Childhood is not a time when you want to stand out. Your most important goal is to fit in.

You’re not eight years old anyone. Are you still trying to fit in?

Super Bowl mania took over the airways this past weekend. Football fan or not, you had to watch it if only for those commercials, right? How could you face your friends and coworkers if you didn’t even know the final score?

How many things do you do because you feel like you have to? It’s expected…if you want to fit in.

 What if every choice you made was based only on your own opinion?

If no one else cared or would even ask if you watched the Super Bowl, would you still watch it? Or would you choose to spend your time doing something you really enjoy?

There are consequences for not fitting in. You move along- to something better. You enjoy YOUR life!

“People who cannot invent and reinvent themselves must be content with borrowed postures, secondhand ideas, fitting in instead of standing out.”  Warren G. Bennis

How Soon We Forget

Sunday, January 13th, 2013

Oak Trees In the Snow at DawnAs the January thaw visited many parts of the country this past week, we are reminded how nature has the power to delight us. The rise in temperature, the rays of sunshine, restore our faith that winter's bleakness is not forever. As if to say, it's only temporary, glimpses of green peak through the thinning blanket of white covering the landscape.

Yet, a drop of a few degrees, jogs the memory and brings a shiver to the body. Oh yes, it's still January. The moisture on the bare tree limbs is transformed to sparkling frost. This month of new beginnings is not half over so there's plenty of time to forge your path through snow or not, into 2013.

Revisiting my intention for the new year, I prefer intention to resolution, I'm eager to assess, how am I doing?

I've learned that unless an intention, a goal, or even a good idea is kept in the forefront of your mind, it tends to disappear into the trivialities of life. It's only been a couple weeks. Hmmm. How soon we forget. Now what was that intention? Oh yes…

Let's live a fun and fulfilling life.

What has been fun so far this year?

I'm happy to say I have added more fun to my daily routine this new year. Spending time with friends, going to an amazing play, trying a new restaurant, making travel plans, beginning a book I've wanted to read. To me, all fun activities.

Yet without a conscious effort to make time for pleasurable pursuits, I have, in the past, let many opportunities pass me by.

I'm too busy.

Something else is more important.

Maybe next time.

You know what? You always have time for fun. You need to make time for fun. Fun is the magic elixir that takes care of the other half of my new intention.

Have I felt fulfilled by my life?

What feels most fulfilling to me is making connections with people who remind me of my purpose in this life. To make your life more enjoyable. If you're reading this, I hope I've done that for you because, if I'm true to myself, I am fulfilled.

How are you doing on your resolution or intention or your wish for this new year? Remember what it is. Hold it often in your mind and in your heart.

Let's have a fun and fulfilling life!

 

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget that you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
Maya Angelou

Habit Forming

Sunday, November 18th, 2012

How many times do you repeat an action before it becomes a habit? I've heard a habit can be created after twenty one days of repetition. Three weeks of doing the same action once per day. Really?

We are easily able to discipline ourselves long enough to make three weeks, especially if you've set yourself up for a reward at the end. No sweets for twenty one days, then a gooey hot fudge sundae as a congratulatory feast to mark your accomplishment.

But that's not a habit, or you wouldn't even want another sweet after twenty one days as a habitual healthy eater. A habit is not a short term goal.

A habit is a way of life.

Another way to describe a habit is an action that you are unconsciously competent at doing. You don't have to think about performing the action. You automatically go through the motions. You're so good at it, you may not even remember that you've done it.

Like brushing your teeth. Have you ever had to check if your toothbrush is wet because you don't remember if you brushed your teeth in the morning? You've done it so many times, in the same place, at the same time, you are unconsciously competent at brushing your teeth.

But what about a habit that creates a way of life?

A local restauranteur has owned his dining establishment for more than twenty years, an admirable business run. One important thing has contributed to his continued success. It's a habit he started when he opened his business.

Whenever a patron comes in the door, he is there to warmly greet them. He calls them by name, or if a new person walks in, he introduces himself. When they return, and they always do, he remembers them and they are treated to his signature welcome.

Just as significant, when his guests are ready to leave, he jumps to his feet with a smile on his face, thanks them for coming in, and says good bye. No matter how long the day, or hours on his feet, his demeanor is the same.

Over the years this savvy businessman has established a loyal clientele of customers. His is often the first place visitors return to when they arrive in town.

Is it the food?

The ambiance?

The free parking?

No, it's a result of that habit he started so many years ago. He's repeated the same action over and over, more than 100,000 times. That habit has created his way of life.

It is his habit of graciousness and gratitude.

The thing about a habit is, you can start one anytime. It's never too late. And a habit, well established, lasts a lifetime.

What habit will you start today?

 

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit."
Aristotle

The Most Revealing Cover

Saturday, October 13th, 2012

How do people get the impressions about you that they do? Like judging a book by its cover, outside appearance is what people first notice.

Book marketers work at crafting just the right look for the cover of a new release. They study what people notice first, which colors and graphics will catch the prospective buyer’s eyes, even what placement in the store will sell most effectively. 

In your marketplace, you are under the same scrutiny every day. What about your “cover” is being noticed? Is you apparel, your hairstyle and your grooming, reflecting the popular look of the day? You can analyze your “cover” look two ways.

First, is you’re following what everyone else is doing- wearing this season’s hot new color,  tangling cascades of unruly hair, or sporting a scruff of beard- you’ve succeeded at fitting in. If this is your goal, you’ve made it.

Another way to see it- by mimicking this au courante look, you’re like every other book on the shelf. That’s marketing suicide. An author may have a signature style of writing, but each book is unique and must be marketed that way to be noticed.

You are a person with a unique point of view. You have distinct characteristics both physically and emotionally. Are you camouflaging what’s best about you behind colors or styles that don’t suit you? Have you not changed your style for decades?

Take the time to discover what look reflects who you are- the real person- the contents behind the cover. That’s how best sellers are made.

 

"Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom."
Thomas Jefferson

You Want What?

Sunday, August 19th, 2012

Had dinner with a friend who told me about a coworker's obsession with  "finding a hot babe." Not talking about a teen here either. I was curious about the social interaction involved with his quest.  

What was his strategy to reach his goal? 

It could be summed up as-  waiting for her to magically appear at his doorstep.

My friend suggested to him that he branch out, join some new social groups, take some classes, or at least leave his apartment after work.

Definitely more effective than his current system.

Reminds me of the sage advice- "To get something you've never gotten, you must do something you've never done." 

How often do we intend to reach a new goal, yet our actions are no different than usual? Happens to us all. 

While setting an intention is a powerful beginning to manifesting your desires, an action plan is the fuel to get you there. And action toward a new goal requires stepping out of your comfortable cocoon of the status quo and becoming the person capable of reaching the goal.

What does achieving your goal require of you?

Additional knowledge.

Time management.

Expanding your network.

Believing in yourself.

Take the next step. Be the goal achiever you know you can be.

 

"Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it."  W.H. Murray


Would You Pick Up This Book?

Tuesday, August 7th, 2012

How do people get the impressions about you that they do? Like judging a book by its cover, outside appearance is what people first notice.

Book marketers work at crafting just the right look for the cover of a new release. They study what people notice first, which colors and graphics will catch the prospective buyer's eyes, even what placement in the store will sell most effectively.

In your marketplace, you are under the same scrutiny every day. What about your “cover” is being noticed? Is you apparel, your hairstyle and your grooming, reflecting the popular look of the day?

You can analyze your “cover” look two ways.

First, is you're following what everyone else is doing- wearing this season's hot new color,  tangling cascades of unruly hair, or sporting a scruff of beard- you've succeeded at fitting in. If this is your goal, you've made it.

Another way to see it- by mimicking this au courante look, you're like every other book on the shelf. That's marketing suicide. An author may have a signature style of writing, but each book is unique and must be marketed that way to be noticed.

You are a person with a unique point of view. You have distinct characteristics both physically and emotionally.

Are you camouflaging what's best about you behind colors or styles that don't suit you? Have you not changed your style for decades?

Take the time to discover what look reflects who you are- the real person- the contents behind the cover.

That's how best sellers are made.

How Do You Deal With Disappointment?

Tuesday, July 31st, 2012

We all face disappointments. Not making the sale you've worked on all month. Missing out on the last almond croissant at the bakery. Not the desired outcome, but not the end all.

You shrug it off. Try harder next time.

What if you have been working toward a goal your entire life? Dedicated hours every day. Visualized your success. And in the end- you came up short.

Disappointment is a mild description for the heartbreaking reaction of Olympic gymnast, Jordyn Wieber, when she missed out on her lifelong dream of representing the U.S. in the all-around competition.

Most of us will never know the feelings she experienced. We have never wanted something so badly or worked for anything so intensely.

Tears fell, yet years of discipline was evident as she reined in her emotions and returned to perform another day. One commentator described her as "driven by the agony of loosing."

Her solution to recover from disappointment?

  • Smile
  • Focus
  • Be stronger and stronger
  • Replace bad memories with good memories

An example of a true champion we can all follow to temper our disappointments and ramp up our own level of desire.

And perform another day.

Thank you, Jordyn.

Day Twenty Three of the 30 Day Gratitude Challenge

Wednesday, July 4th, 2012

How refreshing on this Independence Day we focus on what's right with our country. The twenty third day of the 30 Day Gratitude Challenge, I highlight a couple who personify what is right.

They both had entrepreneurial dreams as they started a young family. Through shared goals and common values, they have created a positive and loving environment for their children.

Working through challenges experienced by many families, they never lost their vision of the life they imagined. Investing in themselves to learn and grow, they now control their own future and live as inspiring examples of what is possible in this Land of the Free.  

Day Twenty Two of the 30 Day Gratitude Challenge

Tuesday, July 3rd, 2012

  Pride is a form of gratitude I feel on the twenty second day of the 30 Day Gratitude Challenge. If the Olympic trials have captured your attention this week, you will understand.

Gymnast, Jordyn Wieber earned her place on Team USA to represent all of us who have had a dream and persisted until reaching the goal. This  young woman  from Michigan has many more goals to keep her inspired.

She has proven that technical skill will take you far, but belief in yourself will make you unstoppable.

Thank you, Jordyn, and all the shining examples of achievement that represent what is possible for us all, if we believe.

Be inspired!


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