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I’m Directing This Flick

Tuesday, April 1st, 2014

Today is my favorite day of the year. The freshness of Spring is in the air, the birds are chirping, and, oh yes, today is also my Birthday.

As a child I never knew if the day would be spent playing outside with friends on the verdant, newly sprouted grass or cozied up inside with a round of hot chocolate for all as the early Spring winds blew whirlwinds of white snow off the two foot high snow banks outside. If I was still living in the north, this year I would be drinking hot chocolate today.

It’s a time of year full of surprises. Of course there are the April Fool’s Day pranks. My Grandmother would not believe it when my Dad told her my Mother had given birth to me. “I know what day it is,” she skeptically replied.

No joke. Here I am. And on this first day of the rest of my life, I’ve decided on a theme for the next 59 years.

“My life is a feel good movie of my own direction.” 

That means I choose to not include the drama, the tragedy and the fear that are part of all the other movies that people choose to live in everyday.

“But it’s not my fault,” is the common explanation on the lips of the victims of circumstances. Yes, it is easier to blame another for what happens in your life. When you do that, you give up your own control. Would you let someone push you out of the driver’s seat of your car and recklessly careen down the road? Of course not.

Your Life. It is Your Life.

Why allow someone else to drive you where you don’t want to go?

Nothing is more important than that you feel good. Like a feel good movie you want to see over and over again.

“Today, no matter where I am going, no matter what I am doing, no matter whom I am doing it with…nothing is more important than that I feel good.”  Abraham- Esther & Jerry Hicks

When Drama Delights

Tuesday, September 24th, 2013

The Autumnal equinox signals the beginning of Mother Nature’s most extravagant color spectacle of the year. As daylight hours fade, ordinary frocks of green worn by deciduous trees magically transform into golden, crimson and bronze gowns that shimmer in rays of sunlight.

MH900407575All the rainbow colors we have explored each month of this year- red, orange, yellow, green and blue, paint the scenery of trees and sky on an autumn day. The color of September, indigo adds the necessary drama for this season of contrasts.

How brilliant the colors against deep indigo clouds of a looming storm!

Many representations of the rainbow omit indigo and transition directly from blue to violet. Pity. Indigo has a history as rich as its hue. Its roots are Indian as the name implies, the word indigo meaning “from India.”

We shall follow the indigo trail on another day. For today, appreciate the drama she provides as you enjoy the autumnal splendor.



“Delicious autumn! My very soul is wedded to it, and if I were a bird I would fly about the earth seeking the successive autumns.”   George Eliot



Unintended Drama

Tuesday, October 30th, 2012

Don't we love to be entertained? Sometimes scared? Shaken out of our daily doldrums? That's why we line up to see the latest movie thriller. And that's why we are frantic if we aren't in front of our big screen TV for the newest episode of our favorite weekly drama series.

But we never imagined the ferocity of the unintended reality show that has just occurred. The broadcast is surreal. We are so accustomed to be shocked and appalled by the eccentricities of our fellow humans, yet this debacle is not human made. The storm of the century.

All the forces of nature combined with the perfect celestial timing to create this scene of devastation. Floating vehicles, boats marooned on sidewalks, unforgiving water depths engulfing streets, and freakish fires obliterating entire neighborhoods. This panorama rivals any Hollywood production.

Yet soon you'll change the channel.

The water will recede.

The vehicles will be scrapped.

And most of us, miles away, will resume our daily doldrums.

The thing about being entertained, or frightened, or shocked is that we get accustomed to the high of it. We crave it. And then it's over till the next time.

As you're fascinated by the telling and retelling of the stories and your eyes are glued to the images of destruction and despair, remember what is human about those stories and the haunting scenes.

Can you put yourself for a moment into a feeling of compassion?

Can you feel gratitude for all that you have?

Can you appreciate the common bond that you share with all people?

Loss of property, extreme discomfort, prolonged inconvenience, these are all, by the grace of God, bearable. But not abandonment.

Do what you can with your thoughts, your prayers, your time and attention. And realize what happens to one of us, happens to all of us.

We are all touched by the ripples from a single drop.


"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries.
Without them humanity cannot survive."
Dalai Lama

Dramatic Results

Thursday, October 4th, 2012

There’s something about the natural drama of the late fall. Storm clouded skies are streaked with variations of gray, from charcoal to dove. Yet in the opposite direction, the sun breaks through to cast a golden glow on the remaining yellow leaves and bare branches silhouetted against the autumn sky. What a magnificent sight!

You too can create dramatic color results by using one of Mother Nature’s same devises, contrast. The deep gray of the sky and the brilliant gold leaves creates a contrast that certainly is attention getting. We tend to pick neutral colors as a base for our wardrobe and our home décor, so everything “goes together.”

Yes, that’s fine- it all matches, but where is the drama?

A color client, Betsy, confided in me that she had just bought several new pieces for her wardrobe, all in the same color, black. “I never have to think about what goes with what.”

“How does your new wardrobe make you feel?” I inquired.

“Drab.” was her reply.

Betsy needed some contrast to make her new basic wardrobe come alive. Looking at her dark hair and eyes, I suggested she try on a cobalt blue jacket over her black top and pants.

An amazing pop of color!

Next, she tried on a red and black leopard print jacket over her black basics.

“Ooh, I love red!” was her reaction.

Finally, Betsy modeled a silky knit, cardigan sweater with a medallion pattern of black and rich magenta.

“This is my new favorite sweater.” Betsy nodded.

All three simple additions to Betsy’s basic black wardrobe foundation created just what she needed, a contrast.

And, most importantly, the colors drew attention back up to her face.

If you’re starting with black, dark blue or charcoal gray, add a bright color for contrast.

Or, if your beginning palette is pale, beige or off-white, contrast with a deeper accent color.


Create your own drama this season!


"Drama is very important in life: You have to come on with a bang. You never want to go out with a whimper. Everything can have drama if it's done right. Even a pancake. "
Julia Child

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