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Create the Best Memorial

Monday, May 26th, 2014

Remember Today

A memorial is defined as “something designed to preserve the memory of a person, event, etc., as a monument or a holiday.” The word is on everyone’s lips today. This day is set aside for the very purpose of remembering.

As if any human mind needs to be reminded of the past.

Our lives are a compilation of past events and remembrances. We use those memories constantly to justify our beliefs and to dictate our actions. Some of us choose to live in those “good old days” and discount the importance of the Now, of the moment we are in.

The events of our past are effective as tools for learning. What did we do in the past that brought us closer to our goals? Remembering that action will help us continue to succeed.

What misstep in our past produced an unfortunate result? The lesson we learned is always good to remember. Staying mired in the bad feelings, thoughts of inadequacy, of hopelessness, do not serve our highest good.

Allowing ourselves to live fearfully because of a past event will color our present choices with a veil of negativity. Keep the wheat; let go of the chaff.

As noted by Edmund Burke, “Those who don’t know history are destined to repeat it.”
Remember and honor those today who made the ultimate sacrifice for our freedoms. Celebrate all who continue to represent your interests.

Use the Now of this day to put those valuable lessons to use and move forward to create your life as a testament to the good that has been accomplished by those who have gone before you.

Your life, well lived is the finest Memorial.

Thought Exchange

Sunday, May 18th, 2014

DavidFriedmanToday I was a participant in a workshop put on by renowned composer and author, David Friedman. Taken from information in his groundbreaking book, The Thought Exchange, David outlined how our minds are conditioned to think the same thoughts over and over. Thoughts we have sometimes believed as truth since childhood.

Yet as adults, we are frustrated when our lives do not improve no matter how hard we work to produce new results. The disconnect occurs because we are using the same old thoughts about what is possible in our lives.

In order to change our results, we must start with changing, or more precisely “exchanging” our thoughts. We are conditioned to believe what we think about something is the only thought possible for us. It is our belief, our truth. In reality there are unlimited numbers of thoughts that are possible.

Do you think you are incapable of doubling your income?

Do you think you will never find your soul mate?

Do you think opportunities have passed you by?

Imagine you can take that long held thought you have back to the store and exchange that thought for a new one.

What? How is that possible? I know, that thought of yours may not look so good, but it is comfortable and has served you well. It has kept you safely where you are, if not happy.

Just like trying on a new pair of shoes, selecting a new thought about what is possible for you will create some physical sensations. There’s a rub on the heel, it pushes on your little toe. It feels uncomfortable.

If you exchange your old thought of “I can’t” to a new thought of “I can,” you will feel uncomfortable. A knot in your stomach. Your heart may race. You may feel nauseous. You will want to revert back to those comfortable old shoes.

Hold the new thought. Stay with the sensations. Allowing yourself to feel the uncomfortable sensations is the key to taking on a new thought about yourself. Positive thinking feels good in the moment, but a lasting change of thought requires acknowledging those uncomfortable sensations and proceeding anyway.

Whatever you see in your world is a reflection of the thoughts you have about yourself. When you look in a mirror, if you do not like the color shirt you see, do not expect the mirror to change it. Only you have the power to exchange your thoughts to reflect a new belief about yourself.

“When we were able to be with our sensations, infinite possibilities opened up.” David Friedman



An Artist’s Expression of You

Tuesday, January 21st, 2014

There’s a certain fascination with what artists do. While the rest of us breathe to live, they create just as naturally and with the same necessity. What is an artist who does not create?

Man Carrying Large PaintingLook in the mirror. Maybe it’s you.

Are you frustrated? Sometimes irritable? Feel like something’s missing in your life? All signs you are looking for creative expression and may not see the need or the opportunity in your daily life.

I don’t have any training.

I don’t own a paintbrush.

I’m not artistic.

Trying to be what you perceive you are not is unsettling. But if you think all artists must know how to paint, let’s turn that notion up side down.

Artists create their vision into outward expression. They release what is inside of them and create the image in tangible form. We celebrate the artist who paints, who writes, who performs. That same artistic opportunity is available to all of us. Our medium for creation is our mind. Our canvas for creation is our life.

All artists begin with an image in their mind of what they want to create. Not knowing every brushstroke, or every word to use, or movement they will make in the creative process, they begin with an intention to manifest in physical form what can no longer stay within them.

You are a creative being, an artist of your own life. Express the image of what’s inside you. Imagine your life. Create your life. Celebrate the artist that you are.


“True artists are almost the only men who do their work for pleasure.” Auguste Rodin

No Resolutions this New Year

Tuesday, December 31st, 2013

You’re off the hook. No New Years resolutions are required this year. Resolutions, no matter how well your intention, don’t work. They’re too big, don’t feel natural and sometimes daunting. There is a much more effective way to begin your new year, one that guarantees success.

surprised babyIt’s called a Habit. Now before you run through a litany of excuses, think of all the bad habits developed over your life time that have been impossible to kick.

Biting your nails.

Being late.

Embellishing the truth.

That just shows you that habits, once adopted do not just go away.

What about the good habits? At some point in your life a parent drilled into you the habit of brushing your teeth every day. Now you naturally perform that habit without thinking.

After being embarrassed by a college roommate when I hadn’t shaved my legs in a week, I decided to make shaving my legs every day a habit. That simple action became and still is part of my daily grooming ritual. It makes me feel better about myself.

So back to this New Year. There may be something in your mind. You know, if you did it every day, your life would improve. But how, in your busy day, do you fit in one more thing?

The secret to creating a new, positive habit is to assign it a time slot.

The easiest way to find time is to link the action to a habit you already have.

Say you want to read an inspirational or self help book this year. No time as you rush through your morning- or is there? Prop a book up in your bathroom and read a few lines as you brush your teeth. Totally painless because you’re standing there, thinking about something anyway. Your day will undoubtedly be more pleasant.

You may have thought of resolving this year to be a better conversationalist, or to meet new people. No time to join a club or church. Instead make a habit of speaking to everyone you see, in the elevator or passing on the street. Just a hello or small talk is enough to stretch your social boundaries. It will also make the recipient of your gesture feel better about themselves. No telling where this could lead.

What else would you like to do in the New Year? Be more grateful? Add that to your nighttime ritual, just before you turn out the lights. Jot down a note to someone you appreciate- just a line or two will do. That simple habit will release endorphin into your system and you will sleep peacefully. And imagine the smile on their face when they open the mail box.

Our habits create our life.  Only you create your habits.


“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then is not an act, but a habit.”  Aristotle

Up In Flames

Sunday, January 6th, 2013

A New Year tradition at the Unity Spiritual Center is a ceremony called "Burning Bowls." In this early part of the year, as we tend to look at our life with the intention of improving, our self inspection also calls attention to frailties of character and bad habits that have impeded our progress. New Year's resolutions, after all, are all about making changes.

abstract fire on blackThe only way to improve is to change.

The best way to change is to release the things in our life that do not serve us.

The tradition of the Burning Bowls is a three step process. First, write down on paper those thoughts and feelings that have gotten in your way the past year. What, if no longer in your life, would free you to be the person you want to be?

Some examples may be-

Self doubt



A sense of lack

Make your list truthfully. It's for your eyes only.

Next, light a flame in a fireproof container, a burning bowl, a fireplace or chiminea. Consciously and with intention release the paper into the fire.

As your words are consumed by the cleansing flames, feel the lightness in your body. Those troubling thoughts and feelings have been released. You now have the space in your heart and in your conscious mind to replace what held you back with what you intend to create this new year.

Write a list of the things you will accomplish. With nothing to inhibit your progress, what unlimited goals can you create? Include the attributes that you now claim as your own to help you on your way.





This list describes the new you, free from whatever used to hold you back. A new You for the New Year.

The final step is to write a note of gratitude to yourself and to a higher power for the accomplishment of all you intend to be and to do. Write the note with the feelings and enthusiasm you would have in reaching your goals.

Seal this note in an envelope to be opened at the end of this year. Tuck it away with your holiday decorations, or give it to a friend who will return it to you eleven months from now.

Why? To experience the sense of amazement and gratitude when you read your note. The person you aspire to be is the person who will be reading your thank you note.

A few weeks ago, I opened and read the note I wrote to myself in January of last year. There are no coincidences. What I sought and was grateful for receiving at that time, is now in my life.

What you imagine, what you intend, you create.

Release what does not serve you and create the life you choose. Let the power of the flame obliterate the obstacles.

Your own power to create is limitless.


"Sometimes you get the best light from a burning bridge."
Don Henley

Habit Forming

Sunday, November 18th, 2012

How many times do you repeat an action before it becomes a habit? I've heard a habit can be created after twenty one days of repetition. Three weeks of doing the same action once per day. Really?

We are easily able to discipline ourselves long enough to make three weeks, especially if you've set yourself up for a reward at the end. No sweets for twenty one days, then a gooey hot fudge sundae as a congratulatory feast to mark your accomplishment.

But that's not a habit, or you wouldn't even want another sweet after twenty one days as a habitual healthy eater. A habit is not a short term goal.

A habit is a way of life.

Another way to describe a habit is an action that you are unconsciously competent at doing. You don't have to think about performing the action. You automatically go through the motions. You're so good at it, you may not even remember that you've done it.

Like brushing your teeth. Have you ever had to check if your toothbrush is wet because you don't remember if you brushed your teeth in the morning? You've done it so many times, in the same place, at the same time, you are unconsciously competent at brushing your teeth.

But what about a habit that creates a way of life?

A local restauranteur has owned his dining establishment for more than twenty years, an admirable business run. One important thing has contributed to his continued success. It's a habit he started when he opened his business.

Whenever a patron comes in the door, he is there to warmly greet them. He calls them by name, or if a new person walks in, he introduces himself. When they return, and they always do, he remembers them and they are treated to his signature welcome.

Just as significant, when his guests are ready to leave, he jumps to his feet with a smile on his face, thanks them for coming in, and says good bye. No matter how long the day, or hours on his feet, his demeanor is the same.

Over the years this savvy businessman has established a loyal clientele of customers. His is often the first place visitors return to when they arrive in town.

Is it the food?

The ambiance?

The free parking?

No, it's a result of that habit he started so many years ago. He's repeated the same action over and over, more than 100,000 times. That habit has created his way of life.

It is his habit of graciousness and gratitude.

The thing about a habit is, you can start one anytime. It's never too late. And a habit, well established, lasts a lifetime.

What habit will you start today?


"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit."

Colors of the Mind Part Three

Wednesday, October 17th, 2012

Yesterday you experienced the incredible powers of your imagination, one of intellectual faculties that enables your mind to be such a useful tool. Refer back to the prior posts if you need to be reminded.

When you created the mental picture of the apple, you were able to keep it in your mind by focusing with your will, another intellectual faculty. The will is the key to accomplishment in any area of your life.

When you decide on an action to take, you use your will to focus your attention there. The focus of your will creates the top of mind awareness necessary to see a project through.

Whatever you focus on in your mind expands into your physical world. It is a natural law that we create what we think about.

Do you remind yourself of what’s gone wrong in the past and dwell on the reasons why you shouldn’t tackle a new challenge?

Are you focused on what you don’t want to happen instead of imagining the infinite possibilities of what you do want?

Remember the mouth-watering image of the apple. The picture in your mind, the focus on that image, began to create in physical form, the apple experience in your mouth.

As Stella Mann said, “If you hold it in your head, you’ll hold it in your hand.”

Your thoughts create your experience.

What better reason do you need to pay attention to what you're thinking? When you find yourself dwelling on the negative, take a deep breath and tell yourself to choose a better thought. And your obedient mind will do it.

That's the power of the will.

Tomorrow, what colored lenses are you seeing through?


"Life is a mirror and will reflect back to the thinker what he thinks into it. "
Ernest Holmes


Colors of the Mind Part Two

Tuesday, October 16th, 2012

If you read the last post, you had an "apple experience" without even visiting the market. If you didn't, read it now for an eye opening exploration of the power of your mind.

Then come back- I'll wait for you.

What made the "apple experience" work for you?

The apple became real to you as you used your imagination, one of your intellectual faculties. Imagination was something you used often as a child.

Remember lying on your back on a grassy hill and studying the clouds in the sky? You saw faces and animal shapes as your imagination was free to create another world out of the fluffy white formations.

Now, as adults, we live in a world of realities, of what “is”. But, when we allow our minds to think about what we “want to be,” we let imagination back into our lives.

As Einstein said, “Imagination is more important than knowledge”. Look around you.

The chair, the window, the building you’re in, everything you see in the world today began as an idea spawned from someone’s imagination. Were it not for imagination, we would not travel in planes, or read by electric lights, or communicate with the help of the Internet.

Anything you see in its physical form started as an imagined idea. Especially now, in this day of immediate communication, ideas are the most valuable currency in the world.

You are only one idea away from having everything you want in your life.

Let your intellectual faculty of imagination produces an abundant supply of all you "want to be."  Imagine…..what's possible for you!

Tomorrow — What's the key you have in your mental pocket that unlocks every door?


"Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions. "
Albert Einstein

Sunset Sonata

Saturday, October 13th, 2012

We look at the infinite colors that surround us, the clothes, the cars, the electronic gadgets. Take your pick. It seems our color choices are unlimited.

Still, nothing amazes me like the display of color presented to us only once each day. The sunset array of fabulous color. Perhaps so we don't tire form the sight, many dusk hours are cloudy and gray, especially in fall and winter. All the more joyful when we are treated to this colorful spectacle in October.

Notice the trio of colors, blue, red and yellow. From these three primary colors, all known colors are born. The combination of any two create orange, green, violet and beyond. How appropriate to end the day with the beginning of all colors.

At various times, the sunset paints magically with these hues to produce the nightly colorful progression from early dusk till the sun sets upon the water with the seldom seen "green flash" as it dips beneath the horizon. The ensuing color show lasts until darkness takes over the sky.

As you enjoy the presence of color in every thing you see, remember the gift where colors begin. The light of the sun and her nightly ritual to slumber. Can she compete with her awakening in the dawn? Ahhhh!


"There is nothing is more musical than a sunset. He who feels what he sees will find no more beautiful example of development in all that book which, alas, musicians read but too little – the book of Nature. "
Claude Debussy

What Are You Creating?

Tuesday, October 2nd, 2012

Ask most people, "Are you creative?" and you'll probably get a puzzled look and a shrug. Artists are creative, and writers, and inventors. If you're not painting a picture, or writing a sonnet, or devising a mode of intergalactic travel, how creative are you?

Maybe it's the word, creative, that seems so intimidating. The idea of making something out of nothing, reminds us of the biblical connotation. Who are we to compete with a production like that?

But even artists, writers and inventors start with something. They begin with paint or clay, with words and their meanings, and with an infinite supply of what already is to create a new and different version.

Some of the most creative people I know do not wield paint brushes or pens. They are the problem solvers in the world. The tools they use are past experience and a way of seeing that is not obvious to most of us.

After spending most of the morning tinkering with the stereo amplifier that stopped working, my husband pronounced it "done." Not fixed, but its usable life was over. "That was a waste of time," he declared.

Not so. You learn something with everything you do, whether you classify it a success or not. He is a great problem solver because he's spent a lifetime experiencing what will and what won't work. His creativity lies in finding a solution or determining it's time to move on.

That's a skill everyone can master. As Einstein reminds us "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it." The first step in fostering your creative mind is to step back and see the situation with different eyes.

Take a literal step away and do something totally unrelated. Take a walk, read a book, call a friend. You will come back with different eyes that may see something you missed before. Distance creates a new perspective.

If that doesn't work for you, question the assumptions you are making by being too close to the problem. Pretend you've just met someone and they are telling you about this same problem they are having. From the outside, looking in, what helpful suggestions would you offer to them?

Most of us can eagerly offer advice to other people because we are detached from the problem. Write down your ideas for them and then see how those suggestions would help you too.

Creativity thrives when the mind is free to wander. The subconscious mind, where all knowledge and our every experience is stored, has all the answers.

You are a creative being. What are you creating? A solution or a bigger problem?


"The human body has two ends on it: one to create with and one to sit on. Sometimes people get their ends reversed. When this happens they need a kick in the seat of the pants. "
Theodore Roosevelt

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